Romantic Getaways - Do They Really Help a Hurting Relationship
Romantic getaways and heavenly destinations sound like an enchanting hideaway for any couple. However, many couples who are on the brink of extinction are often under the mistaken impression that a romantic getaway can improve their relationship and melt away their problems.
On a romantic getaway, a couple is whisking themselves away to a fantasy destination where they may believe all the troubles and problems in their world will melt away. While a romantic getaway vacation can temporarily improve a rocky relationship, it is only a band aide for a problem that the couple must take proactive measures once they return from their romantic destination in order avoid becoming relationship road kill.
If a couple wants to improve their relationship they will need to start working through to the heart of their problems, working on communication and trust issues. Seeking out a qualified counselor to act as a buffer and intermediary can vastly improve a couple's view of each other, and learning to reconnect by using a technique I call Soul Gazing will help put the spark back in their eyes and that dating feeling back in their hearts.
The Soul Gazing technique I am referring too is much like the game many people played as children of starring into another's eyes, without blinking or speaking. However, in this case, the object is not to make the other laugh, but to gaze into the soul of the other person. 2-3 minutes to start works best. Once the couple has that down, they need to work into 15-minutes and this technique will actually help the couple break through some of their barriers.
Couples need to understand that love is a decision that is made daily. It's not a feeling (that's all about actual chemical's that flow through our bodies when we are in the flush state of crush. It's what I call The Chemistry of Love.)
Something else couples need to remember is that love is a gift, it's not a right. Gifts are not meant to be taken lightly (except the ones that are meant to be funny of course!); a gift is something one person has given to another with great thought behind it.
A saucy vacation or romantic getaway won't release old pain and wounds that are caused by a lack of communication and broken promises; it will only provide a temporary patch that will eventually wear off, exposing a deeper and more festering wound. Take a healthy and proactive role in your relationship if you want to insure a long and healthy life with your partner. Studies have shown that a healthy and happy relationship may also lead to a much healthier and long lived life as well!
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How can you help yourself so you can attract the right person?
- Remember that all statements are statements of self-disclosure. You will automatically attract what you believe about yourself both consciously and unconsciously. Did you know that our subconscious mind controls 87% of our thinking? Our conscious mind only controls 13%! If you have built in your subconscious mind with your conscious talk that you aren't worthy, that's what will be projected. This exercise is to reprogram your subconscious mind.
- The first law of attraction is: If you wouldn't date you or marry you, why would anyone else? You must love yourself first. Start out with little sayings in your mirror. While you may feel silly, eventually you will believe them and they will make you the one everyone stares at when you walk in the room. Look in the mirror and say, "You are gorgeous darling." "I love me so much!" (Throw your arms around yourself.) "I am worthy of the best!" "You gorgeous hunk!" and other affirming statements.
- You have to be the right person naturally. You can't make yourself into the right person. You will never be the right person until you are the right person, meaning that you have to make the way you think and feel about yourself right. You have to heal yourself and fix your problems before you start one with another person. This is a hard one to conceptualize, but spend some time thinking about the order of words and you will understand fully.
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"When Jaci Rae first contacted me regarding her new book, Winning Points With The Woman In Your Life, One Touchdown At A Time, I was intrigued and maybe a little skeptical.
Even though I am not a true football fan, I found it difficult to put this book down. Each chapter presents an important nugget of information and offers clear and rational supporting facts and descriptive vignettes all wrapped in a sports theme package.
I thought of all the women who could benefit from this book as well, because it offers great insights into how men are wired and the influence this has on their view of the world and their (at times confusing) behavior.
When every player understands the techniques and how they are executed - it unites them into a winning team. Now this is something a guy can relate to..
One of my favorite parts of this book is when Jaci talks about building friendship and true intimacy. Her descriptions of how men and women differ in the ways they seek and attain intimacy are perfectly articulated.
Her suggestions are concrete and easy for guys to implement. She emphasizes the important point that for women- intimacy is really all about the little thoughtful things that a man does, or does not do in the relationship.
One of the most important things Jaci says in this chapter is that, "Just as a football team will look for a player to replace you if you aren't fulfilling your role, a woman will draft another player into your position if you aren't meeting her basic needs in the relationship." Too many men figure this out too late in the game.
Even though this book speaks in the language of football, it will have great appeal to women as well. Here they will find a list of traits that men say can be found in an "almost perfect female." They will also get a man's perspective on the "Don't Go There Ever" woman.
Want a list of the top five things men say you should know about them? This book has it. Want to know what to say and do to keep him happy or perhaps get a view into his thoughts when you say, "let's talk?" My personal favorite is the list of "top five things that women do that make you crazy or get on your nerves." Fasten your seatbelts ladies- this is a great ride.
Jaci also offers many ideas and suggestions on ways to spend quality time together, how and where to meet the woman or man of your dreams and how to help your relationship thrive. Again, she gives concrete and practical tips that are sure to offer something to every reader. This is a book I would highly recommend to every man and woman who is interested in improving and/or deepening his or her intimate relationship...
Speaking to the guys out there, I would say that finally there is a book on relationships that won't leave you feeling like you've been dragged to another "chick flick." To the ladies I would say, "read this and you will never again have to ask, why do guys act like that." In addition, he will be impressed by your incredible knowledge of football."
A Rae of Hope for Men and Women Everywhere
You may know Jaci Rae. She has toured the globe, is a celebrated radio show host, sought after speaker and a passionate advocate of positive relationships.
It was during one of her shows that Jaci discovered another true passion in her life - finding out what made relationships truly work. She went on to study psychology and today, her knowledge and life-learning's about successful relationships are helping men and women find and keep love. Today, her books are helping men and women live loving happy lives. From dating and meeting women, to marriage, and divorce, Jaci can help you stop fumbling and start scoring the love you deserve.
